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The SnapBack

6.12.19








Let’s talk about the ‘snapback’ shall we. I, personally, am not a fan of the term. Actually, it’s more so the concept I hate. We hear it over and over gain that it takes nine months to grow a tiny human and it will take nine months for you to physically feel like yourself again. Yet, for some twisted reason, we’re all subjecting ourselves to this insane idea that you need to pop out that baby and look like your old self within weeks. Aaahhh – can you tell I’m annoyed? I’m not at all here for snapback culture.

I’m not going to lie, any woman postnatal is elated when she’s given a compliment on her appearance. I mean let’s be real, she’s just spent nine months gaining weight rapidly, probably about 40 pounds, (maybe more, maybe less), and then she gives birth and only loses like 12 pounds altogether! Unfair! Sometimes the remaining weight drops off, and other times it really doesn’t. While I definitely understand why it can affect your self esteem, what really matters is that we were blessed enough to carry a child. So what if you’re a little more doughy afterwards? 

I’ve gotten so many messages and comments about my ‘snapback’ game and it feels really nice… for a fleeting moment because I know what’s actually happening under clothes. While it may look like I’ve lost a bunch of weight, the truth is my stomach is destroyed! I have stretch marks (which I didn’t get with Julien!) and my former mom pouch has reached a new level. Luckily, my taste in clothing benefits these new bodily treasures of mine. I love a good high waist jean and I’m not one to bare the tummy (I even love a high waist bikini bottom!).  I laugh about it but I know that’s not every new mom’s reaction. 

I’m a huge believer of ‘look good, feel good.’ I love getting dressed every day and doing my hair and doing my makeup. It makes me happy so I find the 5-10 minutes to do it every day. And for me, that’s what’s going to motivate me to take care of myself. To go on long walks. To maybe put down second Hershey’s cookies n’ cream bar. What I’m not going to do is starve myself or workout out for 3 hours. I haven’t been to the gym yet and when I do, I’ll have like 30-40 minutes to get in and out. So it’ll be a bit of a process for me and I’m okay with that. Also, fake it till you make it, ladies. Get those control top panties. Gets your spanx on (as long as they’re comfortable and you can breathe). Just remember to be kind to yourself! You grew a human! And that girl whose body went back to her pre-baby self in no time – oh well. Nobody’s life is perfect, so trust and believe she has her own shit going on somewhere. And besides, her journey is not your journey. Your journey has your little person in it. Would you trade that? Never!! 

2 month baby update

4.12.19


It’s been a long while since I’ve posted on here, but I just figured why wait until the new year to make changes if the mood strikes now! If you follow along on Instagram, you know I was basically miserable towards the end of my pregnancy and actually went over my due date by a week. I gave birth to little miss Harper Belle on September 25thand a little chubster she was, weighing in at nine pounds. My biggest worry about bringing home baby #2 was Julien. He is the first kid on both sides of our families and is absolutely spoiled. Surprisingly, he’s actually taking it very well. He loves Harper and always ask to hold her, hug her and kiss her. What I find interesting is that any frustrations he has is all geared towards Ben and I. He’s constantly testing boundaries with us, mentally and physically (like not listening when we say no and also pretending he’s a super hero when running his little body into my legs, full force). It’s also coming just before he turns three, and I’ve heard a lot about ‘threenagers’ and them being very in their feelings. I see that happening now. Julien will run off to his room and close the door when he’s upset. Am I weird for thinking it’s adorable!?





So back to Harper! The beginning was a little tough. We had latch issues, a choking scare that landed us in the ER, the whole house down with the flu, and then I had mastitis! Not off to a good stat, but everything always comes in waves, right? Glad to report it is all better now. I’m not going to bore you with the ‘she’s a good baby’ talk. Like all babies, she has her moments, some great that will have me laughing and smiling for a long time and some bad that have me borderline in tears. She just started intentionally smiling in the last few weeks and it’s my absolute favourite thing. No, scratch that. My absolute favourite thing is when she smiles at Julien. She’s obsessed with him. When he walks by, or even just hearing his voice, she’s all smiles. He loves reading to her or telling her stories - it’s seriously the cutest. 



As for me, I’m doing well! I can’t like – and this is probably not PC to say – but with Julien, I found the first 3-4 months, pretty crappy…exhausting…shitty. During that time, I wouldn’t say I was miserable, but I was in a zombie state and convincing myself I was happy. I guess I’d classify that as the occasional baby blues. Hindsight is 20/20. It wasn’t until he was like five months when I was genuinely really happy that I realized  what I felt before. I mean so much changes, it’s no surprise. This time around, I definitely am enjoying this state a lot more. I think it’s because I know just how fleeting it is. Also, I’m getting some sleep! Sleep makes such a difference. Julien was up every 2-3 hours for five months! Harper sleeps in 5, sometimes 6 hour blocks and it’s incredible! Sleep was my second biggest fear and thank God this baby came through for me! We’ll see where that four month sleep regression lands us!



I always wondered how parents of multiples did it. It just looks like so much work to have two or more kids. Julien alone is a handful! The thought of a needy, crying baby gave me a lot of anxiety while I was pregnant. Now that we’re in the thick of it, I still don’t know the secret. Some days I feel like I’m rocking it, other days I think to myself I have no business having kids. Fact, I missed Harper’s two month checkup a couple days ago because I thought it was a different day of the week - #momfail. But honestly, I’m just happy to have them fed, bathed  and alive at the end of the day! That’s always a #momwin in my book!

West End Mamas

30.7.19



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33 weeks pregnant! Isn't that crazy? I feel like it was two months ago when I peed on a stick and saw that little positive sign. But that was actually in the beginning of January! So here I am now seven weeks away from meeting our little girl. This pregnancy has been very different from my pregnancy with Julien. I felt great from day one and was doing spin classes twice a week until 36 weeks. This pregnancy on the other hand, it started out rough! I was feeling violently hungover on a daily basis for 12-13 weeks accompanied by migraines, which usually resulted in... well, I'll spare you the gory details. Aside from that horrible first trimester, I also have a 30+ pound two year old who makes me chase him endlessly and wants to be carried 15 times a day. Circumstances are definitely different this time around! However,  I'm feeling great and I wanted to share with you one of the major reasons as to why that is.

I started going to West End Mamas back in May. It is the greatest resource for all things pre and post baby (they even have services for your fertility journey!!). It's a wellness clinic that focuses on the well being of a mama. West End Mamas offer prenatal and postnatal care for moms and moms-to-be. Everyone's pregnancy is different and they are dedicated to making your journey the best it can possibly be for you. They offer an amazing amount of services and classes from acupuncture, pelvic floor physiotherapy, chiropractic care, doula services, breastfeeding support, counselling and so much more. And let me tell you, I've been reaping the benefits!


I was never much of a yoga person, but I started feeling very tight and a bit uncomfortable in my body, to be honest. So I went in for a prenatal yoga class at the Bloor West Village location and it was just what I needed. Like one of those moments you didn't realize what you needed, but then you got it and it felt oh so good. When I started getting lower back pain, I decided to see Dr. Roy at the York Region location for chiropractic care. I have to stress to you that I had never done anything like this; never had any chiro, physio, acupuncture, nothing of that nature. She quickly came to the realization that my pelvis was uneven and was the cause of my back pain and it was all on the up and up from there. I've also received the best massages of my life at West End Mamas. The type where you do not want to get up fro the table when your 60 or 90 minutes is over. It's amazing how good you feel once you let professionals do what they do.

As moms and moms-to-be, the greatest thing you can do for yourself and for your family is to take care of you. I can't recommend West End Mamas enough! If you are in the Greater Toronto Area, you must check them out. They have two locations, one on Bloor West and one in York Region (see details here). They also have an amazing online booking system which makes life just a little easier. Pregnancy is a beautiful process, but there are definitely some not so fun things that come with it. So why not make that process just a little more joyful, pain free, and stress free? Check out all West End Mamas has to offer here!


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