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mommy diaries: 9 months in

27.9.17




This post is long overdue, so I figured I'd do a 9 months in post. I had the best intentions of sharing this journey on the blog, but then life got in the way. So here it is, 9 moths later. So I think I shared here before that I had a pretty good pregnancy. The first trimester wasn't hard for me. I barely had nausea, and by barely, I mean maybe once. I had tender nipples, but that's about as annoying as it god. Second trimester was a breeze. I continued to feel great and even kept on going to spin class two-three times a week. Last trimester was when it got a little bit harder. I started feeling really heavy and short of breath often. But still, it was pretty good considering what some women go through. I know every pregnancy is different, but I sure as hell do pray I get this type of pregnancy if we ever have another one! I ended up having a c-section because my baby wasn't turning. He was sitting cross-legged like a Buddha from about 32 weeks onwards. Luckily, I ended up making it to my scheduled c-section date and all went perfect.

Now let's get into the good stuff. The first night was a dream! I was exhausted but the joy of holding Julien and staring at him just kept me going. It really is love at first sight. It's overwhelming. My heart was bursting of happiness, but I also felt a little scared of what was to come because now he was real. I was terrified of going home and caring for an actual little being. The hospital staff had been great. So fast  forward two days, and we're home. I had my mom here for three weeks. This was a life saver. We had no idea how much work we were getting into. When she left, were happy about getting our space back, (living downtown Toronto in a townhouse condo doesn't equal much space around here!) but oh my gosh. I was exclusively pumping (more about that in another post), and it was time consuming. I barely had time to do anything. My husband is self-employed, so he's around quite a bit. Still, I find it so and cahotic. I have so much respect for single moms. So much respect!

The first three months were nutty and amazing. There were days I couldn't even shower! Julien was napping three times a day, but only for 30 minutes! Without fail - 30 minutes! What can you get done in 30 minutes? Nothing! Between pumping and just cleaning up or taking 10 minutes to just sit and do nothing, there was no free time. Somehow though, you just manage and keep on moving. He was waking twice a night at this point. Some babies sleep through the night by like 3-4 months, but we were pretty okay with that. He would wake and have a bottle and back to sleep. It took about 10-15 minutes. And he always fell back asleep without any fuss. And then came the 4 month sleep regression. Holy shit. That was hard. He would literally wake up and cry for two hours. Sometimes, he wouldn't even cry. He would sit there quietly in his crib staring at the door. Can I just say, that was some creepy shit on the baby monitor. He looked possessed. It was hilarious. That lasted about 10 days, and then he started waking just once. So we made progress!

It wasn't until the fourth month that I realized how hard the first three months were. You just do what you need to do and don't complain. Looking back at it today, for me, right now, the first three months were not the best. Maybe it's that first time parent thing, maybe it was the pumping madness, or maybe just the exhaustion. He was adorable and I love looking at his little face, so that made up for it. I have friends with older babies, and I was always just looking forward to things like him holding up his own head, him smiling, him playing with things. As those things starting rolling, I was elated. Other moms love the first three months more than anything. Neither is wrong or right and that's okay.

We traveled to England with Julien when he was 6 months. The flight there was amazing. While we were there, he learned how to crawl. This was amazing, but horrible timing! The flight back wasn't as great. He didn't want to just sit. So we did a whole lot of walking up and down the aisles (by we, I mean Ben!). But it was okay, no major cries or anything. Still pretty good. We also sleep trained him at 6 months and it's been smooth sailing since then! He sleeps 12-13 hours a night with no wakes (unless he's sick) and has two naps; the first is an hour and half and the second is 30 minutes to an hour.

At 9 months, Julien isn't walking yet, but oh by gosh does the kid move a lot! He's crawling so fast and walking while assisted (holding on the the wall or the couch or whatever is there). I'm having so much fun with him. It's amazing to see the all the new things he learns every day. It's fascinating to see his personality more and more every day. He's a really happy baby. Truly. He smiles and laughs all the time. His laugh is seriously my favourite sound on planet earth. He's also picked up a few bad habits though. He's learned how to start this almost fake cry to get his way. It's both irritating and hilarious.

So this has been my experience. I can't speak for anyone else. I'm absolutely loving every moment right now. I can't even imagine going back to work and being away from him every day! Don't get me wrong though; date nights and girl time and even alone time is necessary. This 100% contributes to my sanity. Being a mom has definitely been the toughest thing, but it's been the best. I really am not one to give advice, but I do want to say that we're all doing our very best. So remember to be kind to yourself!

1 comment:

KWu said...

Thank you for sharing--I'm also currently exclusively pumping for my 7 week old and I'm really looking forward to hearing more about your story.

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